Saturday, October 04, 2008

WARNING:: Not a perfect parent

It can be scary how things in the past can creep up on you. As most of our readers know, I have been divorced and re-married. My husband and I are doing our best to raise a blended family. This of course gets complicated when we have ex-spouses, stepparents, and the whole mess.

It is on my heart to make sure that nobody reading this blog thinks in any way that I am perfect and have it all together. I think just for the fact that I am a mom with a blended family should say that. I have made mistakes, and when I make those mistakes, I realize it and I take care of it.

Have those days when you are trying to get the teenager out of bed and off to school and they refuse to get up and do morning chores? (We have simple chores for the kiddos… morning chores for the teenager are fixing her bed, straightening her room and feeding the dog) There have been mornings that I get very agitated with her and yell. The second I do it, I know I should not have and I apologize as soon as tension cools.

I believe all of this is to say that as a parent, I make mistakes and I have learned from those mistakes. We have a unique family in that we have custody of all of our kids, and three of our kids have developmental, medical or emotional issues. Two of the three have a lot of trouble with their emotions and reacting to things accordingly. We have one that will explode with anger even when he is extremely happy and one that will withdrawal from everybody. This is hard to deal with when you are not sure what triggered it all the time. The third child with problems is our youngest. He has sensory, issues along with having a heart condition, hypotonic, hypoglycemia and other developmental challenges.

I have been heard saying that God gave us our youngest to show us how we need to look at our children. In addition, because of the information we have received with him, it has helped us in handling all of the kids. We are a lot more patient than we used to be. We are a lot more understanding too.

It is amazing the journey that God will bring you through when you allow Him to. It’s not that the Lord will not allow more than you can bear, it is that he allows thins to happen so it brings you to Him. When Jeff and I got married, I thought I had it all together with child rearing. HA! Boy did I have a lot to learn.

Anyhow, the gist of this article is to PLEASE realize I am not perfect and I never claim to be. I thank the Lord in heaven that I am forgiven and saved by the blood of Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior. I try to stay in the Word and I try to keep my eyes on Him. After all, how else could I parent the six blessing He has given me?

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