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~Anthony Brandt
Even though
John and I had no guide for leadership in our home, we tried different things
during different seasons. There was one season when we had family worship every
morning with our toddlers. We’d set up small chairs in the living room and we
sang kids’ worship songs together before John went to work. There were seasons
of family devotions around the table. Seasons when we'd focus on character
development—attempting to teach our kids about kindness and gentleness and
love-your-brother-and-sister-ness. And, sadly, there were many seasons that we
felt more desperate than dedicated. It got to the place where we were more
focused on being dedicated than focusing on Jesus.
Where we came
from,
Where we can go
...
It's not a surprise that most families are in desperate need of a different leadership role model. In their (our!) growing up years, many parents today grew up in homes where there was single parenting, divorce, or a misunderstanding of family roles. We were the latch key children who spent the weekend at dad’s house. Some of our parents were too lenient, others too strict. Some of our parents didn’t give us a good example of what faithfulness and commitment was all about. For many of us, our parents’ quest for happiness led us wondering where we fit into the mix.
But we have to try, don't we? If we don't know something to lead our kids to God than the kids will happily step forward to lead. Go to any park, or to Wal-mart, or even look around the church and you might see that sometimes the big people aren’t the ones calling the shots. The same is true in the home. Kids have their own televisions and computers so they can pick their entertainment. They have their own schedule of school and activities that keeps the family on the run. And in some homes meals are ordered up to each person's liking. No wonder parents feel they have very little influence. No wonder they're fearful of the teen years when kids can talk back and walk out.
What parents need to understand is WE are an influence and leadership is something we need to embrace. We just need to make sure we're doing it with the right focus. I struggled with what to do and how to do it, and still focus on Jesus. That's when I came upon a verse that caused my heart to sing:
I loved that verse because God was talking about us—John and I. The Lord was our shepherd, and this verse reminded us that He was leading us while we led our little ones.
When it comes to leading in the home we don't have to do it alone. There are things we may try, but God knows what our family needs most … and when. When we turn to Him, He will carry us. He will place a song on our heart. He will remind us of a Scripture to read. And as Jesus leads us, we can share His goodness with our kids. We tell them what Jesus says about it, “Look to me, focus on me, and I will never disappoint.”
But we have to try, don't we? If we don't know something to lead our kids to God than the kids will happily step forward to lead. Go to any park, or to Wal-mart, or even look around the church and you might see that sometimes the big people aren’t the ones calling the shots. The same is true in the home. Kids have their own televisions and computers so they can pick their entertainment. They have their own schedule of school and activities that keeps the family on the run. And in some homes meals are ordered up to each person's liking. No wonder parents feel they have very little influence. No wonder they're fearful of the teen years when kids can talk back and walk out.
What parents need to understand is WE are an influence and leadership is something we need to embrace. We just need to make sure we're doing it with the right focus. I struggled with what to do and how to do it, and still focus on Jesus. That's when I came upon a verse that caused my heart to sing:
“[God] tends his flock like a shepherd:
He gathers the lambs in his arms
and carries them close to his heart;
he gently leads those that have young.”
I loved that verse because God was talking about us—John and I. The Lord was our shepherd, and this verse reminded us that He was leading us while we led our little ones.
When it comes to leading in the home we don't have to do it alone. There are things we may try, but God knows what our family needs most … and when. When we turn to Him, He will carry us. He will place a song on our heart. He will remind us of a Scripture to read. And as Jesus leads us, we can share His goodness with our kids. We tell them what Jesus says about it, “Look to me, focus on me, and I will never disappoint.”
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Tricia Goyer is a co-author of Lead Your Family Like Jesus.
Tricia Goyer has written more than thirty-five books, including both novels that delight and entertain readers and non- fiction titles that offer encouragement and hope. She has also published more than 500 articles in national publications such as Guideposts,Thriving Family, Proverbs 31, and HomeLife Magazine.
To learn more about Tricia please visit her website at www.triciagoyer.com
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